DEAR STRANGER!

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Stranger! YESS that’s what you are.! That’s what you always were.!!

I never met you by my own choice.I was told to meet you by my parents.And I was forcibly expected to like you.Because no matter how I felt,it was already decided that you were the perfect choice for me, and that I could not get any better. Everytime I tried to believe them, I inturn doubted myself.                                    But I was so obliged to my parents that I couldn’t question their intentions for me.I wore those specs of oblivion that I couldn’t see any flaws in you.Since I had to spend almost all my life with you,I started respecting you. Before I knew what was happening I even started to like you. Our story seemed to be a fairy tale.Our lives seemed to be written by God’s own hands.

We got married.This is the most beautiful day of girl’s life.Yes it was! I met somebody who would be my life time best friend.Atleast that is what I thought till the day you abused me.            That wasnt acceptable.I felt the pain my heart was causing.But till then I was too much in love with you to leave you.I reasoned your behavior . You were too blind to see my pain but I was still too stupid to have eyes only for you.I was giving myself hopes of everything which will get better with time.But then one day when you slapped me so hard,I was brought back to reality. I am still so thankful to you for this realisation . Now I knew that I was being disrespected and so I also lost my respect for you.But just for the sake of my parents happiness and name I didn’t give up.I did everything to save “US”. 

BUT today,I give up! I am writing this letter to tell you that just because I was quiet never meant that I could never speak.You call yourself man! And you need respect for it.But the day you hit me for nothing was the day you lost me.I hope you realise what you did! You thought I will keep quiet and sit hurt and depressed.But no! I am not crying ! For I lost somebody who was not worth my love!I promise to come out of this even more stronger.Take care.

Marriages are divine connections.Dont make them an expression of restrictions.Domestic violence is a crime.A women leaves even her father’s name and home for you.The least you can give her is respect.She is the producer of your successor.Keep her happy for all that she does for you unconditionally.Just because you are a man,you can’t be god.Stop domestic violence.!

167 thoughts on “DEAR STRANGER!”

    2. Lesleykluchin

      Life is a difficult learning experience. Sometimes we suffer only to gain our inner strength. Pain is never fun nor is it easy to endure, but it does indeed make us wiser and stronger. As a divorced woman myself I can relate. My abuse was not physical but it was just as deep as if it were a slap or a punch and the betrayal just as real.I felt helpless and weak. I stayed for the sake of the children until I realized that I needed to leave for their sake too. Women (and men) need to be valued and accepted.We must be our true self and never be afraid to express our thoughts and feelings.
      It takes great power to walk away. And it takes even greater energy to be brave enough to write about it. You are taking your pain and helping others. I am sorry you had to gain strength and wisdom through pain. But, you learned an important lesson that you can now pass on to others. You are initiating change and that is the greatest gift one can give! Be proud of your courage!!!

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      1. Heart to soul. Post author

        Mam..I really appreciate your brave decision of walking away from something which no longer served you and made you a better person.
        But what I wrote is not my personal story. It’s not a personal experience. I am just a student.
        It’s not me but actually women like you who inspire other people to take right steps. Thank you for reading ! I am honoured.

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      2. Lesleykluchin

        This is a reply to your response since I was not sure how to reply to reply. LOL ( There wasn’t that option on my laptop ).
        First of all you do not have to call me Mam. (I think of Langston Hughes’ wonderful story “Thank you Ma’am” which I used to have my students read.) You may call me Lesley. And even if you did not personally experience this yourself, your ability to make the reader “feel” the incident as if you had, is a gift and talent every teacher looks for in her students when they are writing. (I taught writing for many years along with other subjects.) The ability to let the reader feel as if they are in the middle of your words is what every writer struggles to achieve and you did it very well. Bravo my dear! I also thank you on behalf of all women who have stood strong and found themselves up against bullies. Those of us who realized going our own way and having our own voice was more important than any traditional societal expectation. Keep writing. You have a gift. A+

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    3. Lyrical Quill

      This is a very brave piece. Many of us have experienced disallusionment at the hands of our husbands, or by their words which wear you down to nothing day after day. I send you love and thank you for your courage! Love and Light…

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  4. mihirtrada

    It’s high time we stop tag manliness with certain type of shrunken traits. A man is not a man if he doesn’t know how to respect a woman. Period. And who chooses violence is not even an animal. He’s an alien and deserves to be thrown out of this world.

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  5. A learning poet

    Indian culture.. the accused fir everything. It teaches us to respect others before ourselves. That is were we learn to suffer. Suffer without speaking. This is not just a blog. It is a message. A message more for the women than men. It is impossible to stop crime, but it is possible to not become the mite victim. Suffering crime quietly is a bigger sin. This blog is a perfect message for the women to start respecting themselves more than men. I am very proud of you. And am very happy the character in the story spoke, rebelled and raised her voice.

    Also about the blog. You were once again exceptionally awesome. I loved it and enjoyed reading it. 😘😘 Keep it up baby… You are a gem … 😊😊

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  12. Ipuna Black

    Wow! This must’ve been tough to write. I felt uncomfortable talking about child abuse on my site, but I felt like it was important to be honest and open to help others. Thank you very much for being strong and spreading an important message. Thank you. Thank you!

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    1. Heart to soul. Post author

      I have been observing this for quite a few years now. In the neighborhood,market and on roads . I hate people demeaning “wives”. I hate people who disrespect women.That is why I chose this platform to show my disagreement on what is happening around.I hope the message spreads.!
      Thank you in tons for reading and acknowledging my work.It truly means alot.☺

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    1. Heart to soul. Post author

      No! It’s not my story.
      But this is the story of million innocent women who treat their husbands as God . And in return their God give them “abuses” and “disrespect”. Such gods are not even human.
      Thank you for reading.:)

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      1. Mr.Lonely

        Thank god its not urs…
        Yeah true but country is progressing and due to writers like u people are becoming more aware… There will be drastic change in society thats all we can hope for…😊

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  15. balroop2013

    I am sorry for the painful relationship you were pushed into but nobody knows what a woman steps into when she is told to marry someone…cultural compulsions I despise! I am bewildered such an oppressive culture still prevails!! I too married a stranger but I was lucky as he is a loving and gentle person yet I detest this tradition. You are so brave and my best wishes are with you. Thanks for rejecting domestic violence, thanks for highlighting it.

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    1. Heart to soul. Post author

      Mam I am glad you liked it.! But it’s not my story. It’s fictional. I am just a student but since I noticed this issue for more than enough times, my tolerance gave up. I just could no more handle it and as they say pen is the most effective weapon so I chose to attack so called “men” with my pen.
      I am really happy for you.Thank you for reading.!

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      2. Heart to soul. Post author

        YESS ! I was trying to feel it as my story was writing it effectively.So maybe I skipped to mention it.But since you thought it was mine,I guess I succeeded.
        Thank you so very much.!
        I hope you like my other works too.

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  21. exoticnita54

    Thank goodness you have the strength to walk away..

    Being abused is definitely the height of disrespect and the most non loved reaction..
    We don’t deserved to be treated like that..

    You won when you choose to leave and you love yourself …

    Goood job..

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  22. Jenn

    A rough reality but it happens every day! It changes who we are… My heart goes out to all who experience mental and physical abuse… It should never be tolerated 🤗🤗great post!! Made me want to take stance for those who haven’t found their legs… Their voice yet!! ☺

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  23. Martian

    Yes this is really pathetic in india where we are forced to obey parents..
    I condemn this really .
    Next what made him to do so?
    If u think from his point of view he might have felt the same..a stranger who was selected by his parents..
    He must have felt unhappy to accept some stranger ,the anger on you he cannot slap his mum or dad..he must have had dreams of a different stranger..
    Or he must have had anger on something not going well and he must be showing on you..
    But whatever it’s both are forced to marry and then love which is so stupid indian culture..
    But showing anger on someone without any reason or showing anger of her parents which is really so stupid

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      3. Martian

        Good post.. if I had to tell some truth..I have a guy friend who is affected the girl in article so it’s not always violence on girl..there are cases opposite of them too

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      6. Martian

        He was forced to marry her and also she was forced too. But her hands are high on him.. suppressed and he has to close mouth and listen her commands..he even forced his parents out ..lol.. they are the one forced this guy to marry her..so it’s wonder how some women transform☺☺

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  24. The Showers of Blessing

    Very realistic story, well written. I saw the tag so I thought it could be fiction. You have good observation. Now that you’re aware of it. I’m sure you’ll make sure you’re respected by your “prince charming” before you make your commitment. I don’t know if you’ll be under your parents’ pressure to get married. Will they pick someone for you?

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    1. Heart to soul. Post author

      No..I am blessed to belong to a broad minded family. Even my parents had a love marriage. And the only wish they have is to make me financially independent before any commitment.
      Thank you so much for reading.it means a lot. !

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  27. K. D. Dowdall

    Reblogged this on Pen and Paper and commented:
    Domestic abuse is still very much a terrible social problem in our American culture as in other cultures as well. There are many pathological rationales, however, bullying, power plays, anger tantrums, sexual abuse and rape, as well as drugs and alcohol, are key behavioral problems and often lead to a deadly outcome for any female of any age by fathers, brothers, boyfriends, male strangers, and husbands. Parents often avoid to act on or deny that their male/female child, at a very young age, display acts of cruelty, meanness, and anger tantrums. Often parents just don’t know how or have no time to address these pathological issues. Whenever a culture accepts bullying, as America has recently decided to do, I suspect the act of emotional abuse and violence will escalate. Abuse whether physical or emotional, is also observational by children watching the actions of and by adults within all of our social interactions/mediums. It often starts at the beginning of a child’s life and if not addressed, continues the cycle of abuse and violence throughout these individuals lives. Stop abuse where every you see it, whether in church, school, or at home. Unfortunately, the culture aspect of religion often by design, encourages dominance over females, this is intellectual and emotional abuse that sets the stage for emotional and physical abuse for life.

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  28. multitudeofmythoughts

    The men giving birth to domestic violence are really a blot of shame for the society.Nothing can justify their acts.There is no treatment for such mentally ill people except giving them back the same harsh treatment.
    It is good that you raised this issue.

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    1. Heart to soul. Post author

      Hey..It’s not my personal story, even so, it’s a story of thousands of women.We, the women, are eternal believer of the fact” that things will be fine sooner or later”. Women have an inbuilt function of holding on.They give you more than enough chances . So yes, if even than so called men don’t realise then they are really beasts.

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      1. Daljit Singh Phagotra

        Sorry, I thought it’s your personal story. You wrote it like it’s your own story. The emotions that comes in front, can be presented either when someone is writing own story or when a really good writer, writes it…
        Sorry once again…

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  42. Jamey

    Hello there! This is my first visit to your blog! We are a group of volunteers and starting a new project in a community in the same niche. Your blog provided us useful information to work on. You have done a outstanding job!

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  44. apassersby

    Indian marriage s are like that..Not only girl side..But guy side too same feeling..Forced to like..Love n marry n..Make sex with her as a machine..For mere caste.. Religion n what or other….

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  45. Akhil Kumar

    A story most woman face and wish yo have your end, not all have the courage to walk but they should know that their lives aren’t run by the man they get married to and stand up for their respect! A important topic bud glad you have given your views!

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  47. Jeni G.J

    I liked how you have written this as first person pov. That way readers cam connect to it more. The least they can give is respect but that’s what they find it difficult to give. Such a thoughtful post. This one just hit my heart.

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