Stranger! YESS that’s what you are.! That’s what you always were.!!
I never met you by my own choice.I was told to meet you by my parents.And I was forcibly expected to like you.Because no matter how I felt,it was already decided that you were the perfect choice for me, and that I could not get any better. Everytime I tried to believe them, I inturn doubted myself. But I was so obliged to my parents that I couldn’t question their intentions for me.I wore those specs of oblivion that I couldn’t see any flaws in you.Since I had to spend almost all my life with you,I started respecting you. Before I knew what was happening I even started to like you. Our story seemed to be a fairy tale.Our lives seemed to be written by God’s own hands.
We got married.This is the most beautiful day of girl’s life.Yes it was! I met somebody who would be my life time best friend.Atleast that is what I thought till the day you abused me. That wasnt acceptable.I felt the pain my heart was causing.But till then I was too much in love with you to leave you.I reasoned your behavior . You were too blind to see my pain but I was still too stupid to have eyes only for you.I was giving myself hopes of everything which will get better with time.But then one day when you slapped me so hard,I was brought back to reality. I am still so thankful to you for this realisation . Now I knew that I was being disrespected and so I also lost my respect for you.But just for the sake of my parents happiness and name I didn’t give up.I did everything to save “US”.
BUT today,I give up! I am writing this letter to tell you that just because I was quiet never meant that I could never speak.You call yourself man! And you need respect for it.But the day you hit me for nothing was the day you lost me.I hope you realise what you did! You thought I will keep quiet and sit hurt and depressed.But no! I am not crying ! For I lost somebody who was not worth my love!I promise to come out of this even more stronger.Take care.
Marriages are divine connections.Dont make them an expression of restrictions.Domestic violence is a crime.A women leaves even her father’s name and home for you.The least you can give her is respect.She is the producer of your successor.Keep her happy for all that she does for you unconditionally.Just because you are a man,you can’t be god.Stop domestic violence.!
Very meaningful nd inspiring really this post contains words of wisdom 😉 Thnks for sharing 🙂
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Thank you so much. !!
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You are always welcome 🙂 This is special post keep writing my dear friend 🙂
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Sure.!
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YaY thanks 🙂
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Life is a difficult learning experience. Sometimes we suffer only to gain our inner strength. Pain is never fun nor is it easy to endure, but it does indeed make us wiser and stronger. As a divorced woman myself I can relate. My abuse was not physical but it was just as deep as if it were a slap or a punch and the betrayal just as real.I felt helpless and weak. I stayed for the sake of the children until I realized that I needed to leave for their sake too. Women (and men) need to be valued and accepted.We must be our true self and never be afraid to express our thoughts and feelings.
It takes great power to walk away. And it takes even greater energy to be brave enough to write about it. You are taking your pain and helping others. I am sorry you had to gain strength and wisdom through pain. But, you learned an important lesson that you can now pass on to others. You are initiating change and that is the greatest gift one can give! Be proud of your courage!!!
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Mam..I really appreciate your brave decision of walking away from something which no longer served you and made you a better person.
But what I wrote is not my personal story. It’s not a personal experience. I am just a student.
It’s not me but actually women like you who inspire other people to take right steps. Thank you for reading ! I am honoured.
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This is a reply to your response since I was not sure how to reply to reply. LOL ( There wasn’t that option on my laptop ).
First of all you do not have to call me Mam. (I think of Langston Hughes’ wonderful story “Thank you Ma’am” which I used to have my students read.) You may call me Lesley. And even if you did not personally experience this yourself, your ability to make the reader “feel” the incident as if you had, is a gift and talent every teacher looks for in her students when they are writing. (I taught writing for many years along with other subjects.) The ability to let the reader feel as if they are in the middle of your words is what every writer struggles to achieve and you did it very well. Bravo my dear! I also thank you on behalf of all women who have stood strong and found themselves up against bullies. Those of us who realized going our own way and having our own voice was more important than any traditional societal expectation. Keep writing. You have a gift. A+
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You made my day. Thank you so much. Keep reading. I hope I can’t maintain my grade ☺
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Can*
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This is a very brave piece. Many of us have experienced disallusionment at the hands of our husbands, or by their words which wear you down to nothing day after day. I send you love and thank you for your courage! Love and Light…
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Thank you so much. ☺
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Nailed it once again!Ystrdy we wer talking smthng like dis n today you shunned all dose “superior” men…Kp posting amazing stuffs…
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Thank you so much.! I got my idea in middle of the conversation.Some so called ” men” should be shown the mirror of reality.Thanks alot. !
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Our conversations are so useful
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amazingly written!!!!!
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Thank you ☺
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It’s high time we stop tag manliness with certain type of shrunken traits. A man is not a man if he doesn’t know how to respect a woman. Period. And who chooses violence is not even an animal. He’s an alien and deserves to be thrown out of this world.
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I completely agree.You marry a human and not a punching bag or plastic toy.Why pour your anger over an innocent being.Its a shame! Pure disgust!
Thank you for reading.! Means alot.
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Here here!!!
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Indian culture.. the accused fir everything. It teaches us to respect others before ourselves. That is were we learn to suffer. Suffer without speaking. This is not just a blog. It is a message. A message more for the women than men. It is impossible to stop crime, but it is possible to not become the mite victim. Suffering crime quietly is a bigger sin. This blog is a perfect message for the women to start respecting themselves more than men. I am very proud of you. And am very happy the character in the story spoke, rebelled and raised her voice.
Also about the blog. You were once again exceptionally awesome. I loved it and enjoyed reading it. 😘😘 Keep it up baby… You are a gem … 😊😊
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I owe it to you.You are the one who has taught me to be strong and not just cry. I dedicate my little success to you. Thank you is an understatement.I love you. Making you proud is a victory.☺☺
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You deserve it all… This is yours. Your hard work. I am very happy for you 😊😊
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You and me are different . I didn’t know?
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I’m sorry… I wasn’t liking this because of what’s going on I liked this to acknowledge the pain in this post… These are words that deffinately need to be herd! Strong post!👍
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Thank you so much.
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Your welcome!
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Nicely written. This is a letter all men should read and especially those who mistakenly call themselves ‘men’… those who disrespect and dishonour. Thanks for this post.
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Thanks a ton. ! Means a lot to me.
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My pleasure
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Nice
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Tysm
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Powerful post shunning domestic abuse. Keep writing.
Is it fiction or?
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Fiction. Absolutely fictional.:)
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Very beautifully written
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Thank you so much..!
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You’re welcome! ☺
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Wonderfully framed.
God bless!
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Thanks alot. Coming from polished writers like you it really means alot.😇
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Aww..thats so kind of you to say that ❤
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Thank you mam.! Do follow my blog so that I can get your feedbacks.They are precious. 🙂
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Mam? Please call me Akansha.
I suppose I am younger than you, both in age and experience.
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Maybe ! That respect came from reading your work which was surely a way more polished than mine. ☺
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Wow! This must’ve been tough to write. I felt uncomfortable talking about child abuse on my site, but I felt like it was important to be honest and open to help others. Thank you very much for being strong and spreading an important message. Thank you. Thank you!
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I have been observing this for quite a few years now. In the neighborhood,market and on roads . I hate people demeaning “wives”. I hate people who disrespect women.That is why I chose this platform to show my disagreement on what is happening around.I hope the message spreads.!
Thank you in tons for reading and acknowledging my work.It truly means alot.☺
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You are doing great things! Keep it up! 👏👏👏❤️
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As long as great writers like you say that, I will surely try my level best. 🙂
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Assuming that this wasn’t ur story…
I would like to say inly one thing…
A good writer is one which reflects society….😊😊
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No! It’s not my story.
But this is the story of million innocent women who treat their husbands as God . And in return their God give them “abuses” and “disrespect”. Such gods are not even human.
Thank you for reading.:)
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Thank god its not urs…
Yeah true but country is progressing and due to writers like u people are becoming more aware… There will be drastic change in society thats all we can hope for…😊
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YESS…True..I truly hope for that change soon. 🙂
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Yup… Its all we can do for now…
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Yes. There is a poem I wrote called “she”. Just hope you like it.
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Let me have a look…
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Well described. Domestic violence shall never be tolerated and justified.
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Yes! Women need to know their worth. Compromises on self respect should not be made. When we will respect ourself only then the men will.
Thank you for reading mam! I am honoured.
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Welcome
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I am sorry for the painful relationship you were pushed into but nobody knows what a woman steps into when she is told to marry someone…cultural compulsions I despise! I am bewildered such an oppressive culture still prevails!! I too married a stranger but I was lucky as he is a loving and gentle person yet I detest this tradition. You are so brave and my best wishes are with you. Thanks for rejecting domestic violence, thanks for highlighting it.
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Mam I am glad you liked it.! But it’s not my story. It’s fictional. I am just a student but since I noticed this issue for more than enough times, my tolerance gave up. I just could no more handle it and as they say pen is the most effective weapon so I chose to attack so called “men” with my pen.
I am really happy for you.Thank you for reading.!
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But nowhere do you say it is fiction. Anyway, I am glad younger generation is so aware and sensitive 🙂
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YESS ! I was trying to feel it as my story was writing it effectively.So maybe I skipped to mention it.But since you thought it was mine,I guess I succeeded.
Thank you so very much.!
I hope you like my other works too.
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nicely written.. 🙂
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Thank you so much “tosht”😂
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Congratulations of 100 followers
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Thank you so much. !
I am overwhelmed.
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👌
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Great 👍 and so beautifully written and inspiring post. 👌👌👌👌
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Tysm ☺
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Welcome.
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Very inspiring.. Awsome😃.
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Thank you.
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Beautifully described..Domestic violence should never be accepted
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Tysm 🙂
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Thank goodness you have the strength to walk away..
Being abused is definitely the height of disrespect and the most non loved reaction..
We don’t deserved to be treated like that..
You won when you choose to leave and you love yourself …
Goood job..
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Hie.
This was a fictional post.Its not my story.So yes the character definitely was strong and she had the courage to walk away. Tolerance of a wrong deed makes you a wrong person.
Thank you for reading.
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Fictional…!!!????
Oooooh really..
Great writing then
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Thank you so much. 🙂
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I am glad you liked it. Keep reading and giving me feedbacks. 🙂
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You got it .. sweet girl
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Hehehe…Thank you so much kind person. 🙂
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Smiling huge
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You must. 🙂 😀
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A rough reality but it happens every day! It changes who we are… My heart goes out to all who experience mental and physical abuse… It should never be tolerated 🤗🤗great post!! Made me want to take stance for those who haven’t found their legs… Their voice yet!! ☺
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Thank you so much dear.! Beautiful mind you have and that is why thoughts are even more beautiful. 🙂
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Yes this is really pathetic in india where we are forced to obey parents..
I condemn this really .
Next what made him to do so?
If u think from his point of view he might have felt the same..a stranger who was selected by his parents..
He must have felt unhappy to accept some stranger ,the anger on you he cannot slap his mum or dad..he must have had dreams of a different stranger..
Or he must have had anger on something not going well and he must be showing on you..
But whatever it’s both are forced to marry and then love which is so stupid indian culture..
But showing anger on someone without any reason or showing anger of her parents which is really so stupid
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Raising your voice or hands on your women is never justified.
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Not justifying here..but everyone will try to know why he did?That’s all..I never support hands on women
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Thank you for reading.! Your feedbacks are precious. 🙂
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Good post.. if I had to tell some truth..I have a guy friend who is affected the girl in article so it’s not always violence on girl..there are cases opposite of them too
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I agree…And my next post is about it. 🙂
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Ok
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He was forced to marry her and also she was forced too. But her hands are high on him.. suppressed and he has to close mouth and listen her commands..he even forced his parents out ..lol.. they are the one forced this guy to marry her..so it’s wonder how some women transform☺☺
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Domestic violence in both ways is not good. Arrange marriages are built with respect which should be kept throughout the journey of life. 🙂
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I really hate indian so called arranged marriages..all bullshit haha
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I hope he comes out of this gracefully. 🙂
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Not easy like girls..guys once got babies he can’t just divorce and come out..he will live and die with it.. Seems is used to it
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Oh god. This makes me sad. 😦
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on the wholeeee life is about going around the bush
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Maybe.
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Very realistic story, well written. I saw the tag so I thought it could be fiction. You have good observation. Now that you’re aware of it. I’m sure you’ll make sure you’re respected by your “prince charming” before you make your commitment. I don’t know if you’ll be under your parents’ pressure to get married. Will they pick someone for you?
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No..I am blessed to belong to a broad minded family. Even my parents had a love marriage. And the only wish they have is to make me financially independent before any commitment.
Thank you so much for reading.it means a lot. !
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They are very wise. I’ve seen so many girls who just want to get married and be a stay home mom. But independence is important for a girl also. My daughter want to say home when she has a baby, but doesn’t want to be a long term stay home mom. She wants to keep her work skills. I wrote this post:
https://theshowersofblessing.wordpress.com/2017/01/24/daily-prompt-davastation/
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Mam…I loved it…Writers like you inspire newcomers like us to think and write better.😳
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Thank you. I’m sure your parents have a lot of wise words to say even though they don’t have a blog!
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Wow… This was actually awesome I mean I just can feel those words beautifully written 😘
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Tysm.!
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Very important post. Love it: Women will not be broken or defeated and we rise stronger…
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So true. Thank you for reading and following.
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Reblogged this on Pen and Paper and commented:
Domestic abuse is still very much a terrible social problem in our American culture as in other cultures as well. There are many pathological rationales, however, bullying, power plays, anger tantrums, sexual abuse and rape, as well as drugs and alcohol, are key behavioral problems and often lead to a deadly outcome for any female of any age by fathers, brothers, boyfriends, male strangers, and husbands. Parents often avoid to act on or deny that their male/female child, at a very young age, display acts of cruelty, meanness, and anger tantrums. Often parents just don’t know how or have no time to address these pathological issues. Whenever a culture accepts bullying, as America has recently decided to do, I suspect the act of emotional abuse and violence will escalate. Abuse whether physical or emotional, is also observational by children watching the actions of and by adults within all of our social interactions/mediums. It often starts at the beginning of a child’s life and if not addressed, continues the cycle of abuse and violence throughout these individuals lives. Stop abuse where every you see it, whether in church, school, or at home. Unfortunately, the culture aspect of religion often by design, encourages dominance over females, this is intellectual and emotional abuse that sets the stage for emotional and physical abuse for life.
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This was the best ever reaction. Thank you so mam. Such reaction coming from an experienced blogger like you in itself is a victory .
I am honoured. 🙂
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Your post is excellent and was presented extremely well and thank you! Keep writing!!! Karen 🙂
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Thank you so much.
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The men giving birth to domestic violence are really a blot of shame for the society.Nothing can justify their acts.There is no treatment for such mentally ill people except giving them back the same harsh treatment.
It is good that you raised this issue.
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Thank you for reading.
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Hi dear, I have gone through.. most of your posts and all I can say.. that you are fabulous writer.. I loved reading your posts.. Your each post has certain depth in it.. Would love to follow your posts ahead 🙂
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Thank you so much for investing your time and efforts. I hope to give you some good reads ahead. 🙂
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You shouldn’t have waited for that long.
“Just because you are a man,you can’t be god.”
A MAN never abuses or hurts a WOMAN…. It’s the beast, who does so…
Be a MAN…..
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Hey..It’s not my personal story, even so, it’s a story of thousands of women.We, the women, are eternal believer of the fact” that things will be fine sooner or later”. Women have an inbuilt function of holding on.They give you more than enough chances . So yes, if even than so called men don’t realise then they are really beasts.
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Sorry, I thought it’s your personal story. You wrote it like it’s your own story. The emotions that comes in front, can be presented either when someone is writing own story or when a really good writer, writes it…
Sorry once again…
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YESS I was piss angry at this particular issue. So this came as a by-product of my anger. Thank you so much for reading. It truly means alot.
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Welcome…✌
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it was heart touching as well as containing a very meaningful message ..
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Thank you so much ! Keep reading. 🙂
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Interesting topics to question the male ego.Thank you for following my travel blog.
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My pleasure! Thank you for reading.
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I am sorry to hear of this abuse, but I am happy you realized it for what it is…
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It’s a fictional story. Thank you for reading.
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I didn’t catch that it was fictional, so sorry! You do such an excellent job with the writing, it felt real! Great job!!!
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It’s just a fiction for me, but for most other women it is real. Just tried to feel the pain. Thank you so much. Keep reading. !! 🙂
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Yes it is true that unfortunately, it’s many women’s realities. You do an excellent job capturing their pain and putting it to words! Looking forward to reading more!
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I am very happy, you liked it. 🙂
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Most men still don’t consider women equal or even deserving for respect. A step well taken.
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Means a lot. Thank you.😍
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This was heartbreaking but at the same time inspiring too
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Hi..Thank you so much. And welcome to my blog. Hope you like my other works too. 🙂
Happy reading ☺
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Yeah ☺
You too are welcome!
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i can feel your pain….
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Hey..This is a fictional story.
But I am really happy if you can feel the pain of those hundreds of women who go through this. 🙂
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Right, marriage is not a possession certificate for men to use and abuse women. Well expressed. 🙂
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Thank you so much sheetal. I hope the message spreads. 🙂
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Hi thanks for liking my poem. In this world. It seems kind of funny that I’m commenting on a post titled Dear Stranger! I’m not a stranger I’m Canadian…. Be happy and full of grace and joy as you begin your week. N4N.
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I hope you have read my post titled “dear stranger”. Have a good day.
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I will thank you
You may follow my original writing nerd 4 News.com
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Your post is awesome and to be honest I am dead against any sort of domestic violence against women and my next post willl be on that subject .
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All the best for it! Spreading awareness and speaking against it is one major step we can take. Thank you for a read.!
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Very sensitive and powerfully expressed. Where there is no respect in relationships they are just a burden.
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I agree. Just a burden! With no respect relation is almost dead. Only formalities are left which too are certain to end one day. ☺️
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Wise words
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Thank you.
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Hello there! This is my first visit to your blog! We are a group of volunteers and starting a new project in a community in the same niche. Your blog provided us useful information to work on. You have done a outstanding job!
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Thank you so much.! 😊
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Indian marriage s are like that..Not only girl side..But guy side too same feeling..Forced to like..Love n marry n..Make sex with her as a machine..For mere caste.. Religion n what or other….
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Not always, but yes sadly this happens. And it is shameful. What we carry as a tradition is nothing but an orthodox belief. People must understand this.
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Will.never i could see more educated stupids now than before…They use social media to promote n mock other caste ppl and religion
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Yeah! That’s evident now a days.
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Hmm
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A story most woman face and wish yo have your end, not all have the courage to walk but they should know that their lives aren’t run by the man they get married to and stand up for their respect! A important topic bud glad you have given your views!
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Thank you so much for stopping by. 😊😊
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You show great courage. I’m sure your story will help others. Be safe. ❤
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The story is fictional! But I hope it helps others.! Thankyou so much! 😊😊
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I liked how you have written this as first person pov. That way readers cam connect to it more. The least they can give is respect but that’s what they find it difficult to give. Such a thoughtful post. This one just hit my heart.
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Wow.. Thankyou so much for lovely comment. Please keep visiting. 😀
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So powerful, beautiful and sad all at the same time! Thank you for sharing.
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Many many thanks Cherylene 😊
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Very true, domestic violence is a crime.
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Unforgivable one! Thankyou so much. 😊
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